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THE REWATCHABLES · August 25, 2020

The 40-Year-Old Virgin

A 2005 comedy / romance directed by Judd Apatow, covered in the complete Rewatchables archive.

ComedyRomance2000sDirected by Judd Apatow
Overall episode#159Source sheet order
Movie year20052000s
Tomatometer85%Critics’ score
Metacritic73View score
Roger Ebert—No review recorded
DirectorJudd ApatowComedy / Romance

FROM THE CONVERSATION

What they said about the movie

A celebratory, highly favorable discussion of The 40-Year-Old Virgin as a sweet, rewatchable comedy that launched a major Judd Apatow-era comedy wave, with special praise for Steve Carell, the improv-heavy ensemble, and the film’s many memorable set pieces.
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WHY IT WORKS

What made it rewatchable

  1. 01It is built around a sequence of standout comic set pieces that viewers anticipate one by one. About 8 min
  2. 02The improv and alternate versions create a sense that there is almost a second movie beyond the theatrical cut. Opening minutes
  3. 03Steve Carell’s detailed, lovable performance makes the central character easy to revisit. About 8 min
  4. 04The supporting ensemble delivers highly quotable scenes that recur in conversation and online clips. About 32 min

WHAT DID NOT WORK

Their main criticisms

  1. minorThe movie’s runtime and unrated cut are discussed as potentially too long for a comedy, though the hosts mostly defend it. Opening minutes
  2. moderateSome jokes, especially the gay-panic-style banter, would not age well in 2020. About 1:12
  3. minorThe movie is dated by dead technology and period-specific retail culture. About 1:04

SCENES THEY KEPT COMING BACK TO

Standout moments

Favorite

Best Buy opening and Michael McDonald DVD gag

The opening retail scene introduces the ensemble, sets the workplace tone, and produces the repeated Michael McDonald joke.

About 32 min
Favorite

Poker game

The card-game scene is praised for its writing, awkward sexual talk, and comic realism.

About 24 min
Favorite

Chest waxing

The waxing sequence is treated as an iconic gross-out set piece with real physical pain behind it.

About 24 min
Favorite

Porn drop-off and Boner Jams 03

Paul Rudd’s porn-hand-off and mixtape gag are singled out as especially quotable.

About 32 min
positive

Speed-dating / bookstore seduction

The speed-dating and bookstore sequence shows Andy following Rudd and Rogen’s advice to comic effect.

About 24 min
positive

Support group and virgin reveal

The support group scene develops the social awkwardness and camaraderie around Andy’s secret.

About 32 min
positive

Final musical-number ending

The ending resolves the story with a silly musical number credited to Garry Shandling’s idea.

About 32 min

WHERE THEY DISAGREED

The biggest debates

They partly agreed Opening minutes

Whether Apatow’s movies are too long

Bill Simmons

Tends to think some documentaries and long comedies can overstay their welcome.

Sean Fennessey

Defends maximalist length and says he wants all the material.

They partly agreed About 8 min

Whether the film would be read differently in 2020 as an incel comedy

Bill Simmons

Questions how the movie would function in the incel/social-media era.

Sean Fennessey

Says the sweetness and lovable oddball quality keep it from feeling like that kind of movie.

They agreed About 40 min

Which scene is the most rewatchable

Bill Simmons

Prefers the poker game.

Chris Ryan

Leans toward the poker game but notes chest waxing and the bag-of-sand line are iconic.

Sean Fennessey

Also points to the poker game as the key scene.

They agreed About 1:12

Who won the movie

Bill Simmons

Initially leans toward Apatow and later settles on him.

Sean Fennessey

Says Apatow is the winner because of his lasting influence and authorship.

Chris Ryan

Agrees Apatow is the right call.

14 People discussedActors, directors, writers, and producers
very favorableSteve CarellBill Simmons: Praised as the heart of the movie and for a detailed, nuanced performance that made the character lovable rather than creepy. About 8 min very favorableJudd ApatowBill Simmons: Framed as the architect of the comedy revolution and the film’s maximalist, improv-friendly style. Opening minutes favorableSeth RogenChris Ryan: Praised as a chaos agent whose age and looseness powered the improv energy and ball-busting rhythms. About 16 min favorablePaul RuddBill Simmons: Seen as one of the movie’s great comic forces, especially in the poker, breakup, and Best Buy scenes. About 24 min favorableCatherine KeenerChris Ryan: Viewed as the right balance of oddball and grounded, giving the romance weight and credibility. About 48 min
very favorableRomany MalcoBill Simmons: Called electric and scene-stealing, with the hosts noting he nearly owns the film before the character correction scene. About 16 min
favorableLeslie MannBill Simmons: Praised as hilarious in the waxing and home-session material, with her over-the-top performance fitting the movie’s comic register. About 32 min favorableElizabeth BanksBill Simmons: Praised as very funny and on-point in her brief but memorable scenes. About 24 min favorableJane LynchBill Simmons: Mentioned as part of the Best Buy ecosystem and as one of the film’s great comic supports. About 32 min · medium confidencevery favorableKevin HartBill Simmons: Highlighted as a major scene-stealer who nearly takes the movie from Romany Malco. About 40 min favorableJudd ApatowSean Fennessey: Discussed as a maximalist filmmaker whose long cuts and extra material are part of his appeal. Opening minutes
favorableGarry ShandlingBill Simmons: Credited with helping solve the ending by suggesting the musical-number finale. About 32 min
neutralMichael McDonaldBill Simmons: Used as the butt of a running Best Buy joke about a DVD being played repeatedly. About 32 min
neutralStormy DanielsChris Ryan: Cited as appearing in the film and later becoming famous in a different context. About 1:12
12 Conversation takesSpeakers shown only where the transcript identifies them
Bill SimmonsLoved it

The 40-Year-Old Virgin

Calls it really enjoyable, sweet, and adorable, and frames it as the start of a major comedy era.

Opening minutes
Sean FennesseyLoved it

Apatow’s long-cut style

Defends maximalist runtimes and argues viewers should get all the material and judge it themselves.

Opening minutes
Chris RyanLoved it

Improv-driven ensemble comedy

Argues the film captures a new big-movie improv style where scenes are built from the funniest version of many jokes.

Opening minutes
Bill SimmonsLoved it

Chest waxing

Treats the chest-waxing sequence as one of the defining comic set pieces and compares it to classic gross-out scene construction.

About 24 min
Bill SimmonsLoved it

Steve Carell

Says Carell’s part is more detailed and nuanced than a broader comic type and anchors the film’s sweetness.

About 8 min
Sean FennesseyLoved it

Steve Carell

Explains Carell’s character as a functional good guy with one missing life strand, making him both odd and sympathetic.

About 8 min
Bill SimmonsLiked it

Male bonding in comedies

Says Apatow perfected the contemporary version of men busting each other’s balls in a workplace setting.

About 16 min
Chris RyanLoved it

Poker scene

Calls the poker-game sequence the personal favorite because it is perfectly written and the quotes are enduring.

About 24 min
Bill SimmonsLoved it

The 40-Year-Old Virgin

Argues the movie works because the gross material is offset by Andy’s sweetness and the supporting idiots around him.

About 1:12
Sean FennesseyLiked it

The 40-Year-Old Virgin

Says the film still holds up as a sweet, funny, well-structured comedy with great performances despite some dated elements.

About 1:12
Bill SimmonsLoved it

Judd Apatow

Credits Apatow with establishing a personal style and becoming the center of American movie comedy for years.

About 1:12
Chris RyanLoved it

Romany Malco

Says Malco nearly owns the movie and deserved a bigger career after it.

About 16 min
5 ThemesThe larger ideas in the discussion

Comedy revolution and Judd Apatow’s influence

The episode frames the film as a key moment in the rise of improv-driven, ensemble comedy that shaped the next decade.

Opening minutes

Late-blooming adulthood

Andy is presented as a good man stalled in suspended childhood, and the film follows his move toward adult connection.

About 8 min

Male bonding as comic engine

The film’s workplace ball-busting and male chemistry are treated as a core Apatow signature.

About 16 min

Sweetness inside raunch

Despite the gross-out material, the hosts emphasize the movie’s warmth and romantic sincerity.

About 8 min

Big-box retail as a comic world

Best Buy/Smart Tech is treated as a realistic environment for weird coworkers and absurd customer-service behavior.

About 24 min
23 Facts and referencesProduction notes and other movies mentioned

Production note

The film began as a sketch Steve Carell performed at Second City.

About 32 min

Production note

Universal initially paused production because executives thought Carell’s character seemed too much like a serial killer.

About 32 min

Production note

Universal also thought Paul Rudd was too fat and wanted him thinner.

About 32 min

Production note

The production used over a million feet of film.

Opening minutes

Production note

The chest-waxing scene used five cameras and really waxed Carell’s chest.

About 40 min

Production note

Garry Shandling helped devise the ending musical number.

About 32 min

Production note

The American Humane Association withheld its approval because several tropical fish died during filming.

About 1:12

Production note

Leslie Mann’s drunk behavior for her scene was modeled on footage she shot while actually drunk.

About 1:12

Anchorman

Used as a near-predecessor and part of the rise of Apatow-era comedy.

Opening minutes

Caddyshack

Compared as another ensemble comedy built on a let-them-cook premise.

Opening minutes

The Daily Show

Mentioned as part of Steve Carell’s path before this movie.

About 8 min

The Office

Discussed as being influenced by Carell’s film persona and given more runway by the movie’s success.

About 1:12

The Jerk

Compared to the film’s lovable-doofus structure.

About 8 min

The Lonely Guy

Sean cites it as a Steve Martin-era predecessor to this kind of lonely-comedy character.

About 8 min

Knocked Up

Used to contrast Apatow’s later, more slice-of-life work and to note a Munich joke.

About 8 min

Munich

Brought up repeatedly as a 2005 Oscar film the hosts think is overrated or disappointing.

About 40 min

Good Night and Good Luck

Cited as an Oscar contender that the hosts think comedies were unfairly competing against.

About 40 min

Capote

Referenced as part of the 2005 awards field and with Catherine Keener’s other work.

About 40 min

Brokeback Mountain

Listed as one of the 2005 Best Picture nominees.

About 40 min

There's Something About Mary

Used as a comparison for comedies that should have been more Oscar-recognized.

About 48 min

The Simpsons

Referenced via the idea of characters being fake and not judged as if real.

About 1:12 · medium confidence

Living in Oblivion

Mentioned to describe Catherine Keener’s indie-acting background.

About 48 min

Jade

Referenced in the bookstore advice joke about acting like 'David Caruso and Jade.'

About 24 min
11 Running jokes and short linesRecurring bits captured from the conversation

Michael McDonald / 'Yamo Be There' rant

The Best Buy manager repeatedly plays the same Michael McDonald DVD and threatens violence if he hears the song again.

About 32 min

Munich derision

The hosts repeatedly interrupt themselves to dunk on Munich, turning it into a running digression.

About 40 min

'Bag of sand' sex description

The awkward breast-feel line becomes one of the episode’s most quoted bits.

About 24 min

'Boner Jams 03' mixtape

Paul Rudd’s porn-and-R&B compilation is treated as an enduringly funny detail.

About 32 min

'You know how I know you're gay'

The hosts acknowledge the joke’s datedness while discussing its comic function.

About 1:12

Apatow length debate

They keep returning to whether long comedies are a feature or a bug of Apatow’s style.

Opening minutes

Bill Simmons

“if I hear Yamo be there one more time”
Opening minutes

Bill Simmons

“It feels like a bag of sand”
About 24 min

Bill Simmons

“Boner Jams 03”
About 32 min

Bill Simmons

“David Caruso and Jade”
About 24 min

Bill Simmons

“Let's get some fucking French toast”
About 1:12

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