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THE REWATCHABLES · July 8, 2019

When Harry Met Sally...

A 1989 romance / comedy directed by Rob Reiner, covered in the complete Rewatchables archive.

RomanceComedy1980sDirected by Rob Reiner
Overall episode#84Source sheet order
Movie year19891980s
Tomatometer90%Critics’ score
Metacritic76View score
Roger Ebert3/4Original star rating
DirectorRob ReinerRomance / Comedy

FROM THE CONVERSATION

What they said about the movie

A highly enthusiastic appreciation of When Harry Met Sally... as a foundational modern rom-com, with praise for Nora Ephron’s writing, the Billy Crystal/Meg Ryan chemistry, the structure, and the movie’s influence on later romantic comedies. The hosts also acknowledge a few dated or weaker elements, especially the orgasm scene’s length and some styling choices, but overall treat it as a classic and deeply rewatchable film.
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WHY IT WORKS

What made it rewatchable

  1. 01The movie is compact, quiet, and easy to rewatch late at night, with a 90-ish minute runtime and no wasted stretch. Opening minutes
  2. 02The script is packed with memorable dialogue and scene-specific jokes that recur in the hosts' memory. About 16 min
  3. 03Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan have unusually strong chemistry that makes even small scenes feel alive. About 8 min
  4. 04The movie’s supporting friendships and side characters are sharply drawn and worth revisiting. About 8 min
  5. 05The soundtrack and fall/winter New York atmosphere create a classic mood without dating the movie too hard. About 32 min

WHAT DID NOT WORK

Their main criticisms

  1. moderateThe fake orgasm scene is iconic but too long and now feels less rewatchable than it once did. About 40 min
  2. minorMeg Ryan’s crying/late-film performance choices are overdone in a few moments. About 56 min · medium confidence
  3. minorSome wardrobe and hair choices, especially Sally’s hairstyles and the sex-scene hair, look dated. About 32 min
  4. minorA few timeline and logistics details feel implausible on rewatch, such as jobs, dating pace, and apartment/phone setup. About 56 min

SCENES THEY KEPT COMING BACK TO

Standout moments

Favorite

Airport / white man's overbite airplane scene

The plane conversation about taking someone to the airport, the 'white man's overbite,' and sexual expectations is treated as hugely influential.

About 16 min
Favorite

First diner / chef's salad / Sheldon the Wonder Schlong

The diner ordering and sexual banter are praised as rapid-fire character definition and joke density.

About 24 min
Favorite

Bookstore and Central Park friendship start

The transition from strangers to close friends is singled out as a key emotional foundation of the movie.

About 16 min
Favorite

Temple of Dendur / pecan pie museum date

A tense, beautifully shot scene where Sally reveals a date and Harry reacts with jealousy and concern.

About 24 min
Favorite

Carrie Fisher / baseball game / Bruno Kirby entrance

The introduction of Carrie Fisher's friend and the cut to Billy Crystal and Bruno Kirby at the game is praised as a perfect setup.

About 16 min
Favorite

Wagon wheel coffee table argument

The argument about the coffee table and domestic compromises is described as a tour de force.

About 32 min
Favorite

Final split-screen phone call

The late-night phone call about their hookup and its aftermath is praised as a great payoff.

About 32 min
critical

Fake orgasm in restaurant

The famous restaurant climax is recognized as iconic but also long and somewhat uncomfortable now.

About 40 min

WHERE THEY DISAGREED

The biggest debates

They agreed About 40 min

Does the fake orgasm scene still play as rewatchable?

Bill Simmons

It is iconic but not very rewatchable now because the shock value has faded and the scene runs too long.

Amanda Dobbins

Agrees it is not especially rewatchable, though it remains one of the most famous moments in comedy.

They agreed About 32 min

Did the movie age the best overall?

Bill Simmons

Yes, especially for its structure, dialogue, and lack of unnecessary modern rom-com baggage.

Amanda Dobbins

Yes, with only a few dated style details and logistics issues.

They partly agreed About 24 min

Should Sally's clothes be considered bad?

Bill Simmons

He likes the clothes but is more willing to criticize the hair.

Juliet Litman

She defends Sally's outfits as great and on trend.

No final agreement About 56 min

Did Harry and Sally probably end up together after the ending?

Bill Simmons

Yes, and he argues a sequel should center them together as an older married couple.

Amanda Dobbins

No or maybe not; she thinks their relationship could easily have broken down after the movie's events.

Juliet Litman

Leans toward them staying together and enjoys the happy ending.

10 People discussedActors, directors, writers, and producers
very favorableNora EphronAmanda Dobbins: Praised as a singular romantic-comedy writer whose voice shaped later internet-era conversational style and the modern rom-com template. About 8 min favorableRob ReinerBill Simmons: Admired as a great comedy director whose early run after this film included other hits; also noted as bringing personal experience to the ending. About 16 min very favorableBilly CrystalAmanda Dobbins: Viewed as the movie's key performer, selling Harry's stand-up rhythms, physical comedy, and final speech. About 16 min favorableMeg RyanBill Simmons: Praised as the model for later rom-com heroines, though some specific acting and hair choices are criticized. About 8 min very favorableCarrie FisherAmanda Dobbins: Celebrated as a scene-stealing supporting actor whose character and delivery are repeatedly singled out. About 16 min favorableBruno KirbyBill Simmons: Praised as the ideal best-friend comic foil and 'that guy' in the movie. About 16 min very favorableHarry Connick Jr.Amanda Dobbins: The score and soundtrack are treated as excellent and a big part of the film's mood. Opening minutes neutralAlbert BrooksBill Simmons: Mentioned as a rejected possibility for Harry; the hosts do not deeply evaluate him here. About 48 min · medium confidenceneutralMolly RingwaldBill Simmons: Mentioned as a casting possibility for Sally, which Bill jokingly rejects as wrong for the role. About 48 min · medium confidence
neutralSusan DeyBill Simmons: Cited as an early casting idea for Sally before Meg Ryan was cast. About 48 min · medium confidence
8 Conversation takesSpeakers shown only where the transcript identifies them
Bill SimmonsLoved it

When Harry Met Sally...

Argues it is one of the most influential films of the last 50 years and essentially a before-and-after rom-com landmark.

Opening minutes
Amanda DobbinsLoved it

Nora Ephron

Says Ephron has shaped her mind, taste, and reading more than almost any other writer.

About 8 min
Bill SimmonsLoved it

Billy Crystal

Feels Crystal is the essential performer of the film and the reason Harry works as a romantic lead.

About 16 min
Juliet LitmanLoved it

Temple of Dendur / pecan pie scene

Chooses the museum scene as her most rewatchable stretch because of the shot design, tension, and emotional clarity.

About 32 min
Amanda DobbinsLoved it

First diner scene

Chooses the initial diner conversation as the movie's key rewatchable stretch because it establishes the whole movie's tone and jokes.

About 32 min
Bill SimmonsLoved it

Closing reunion ending

Argues the final speech and New Year's Eve payoff are one of the movie's greatest strengths.

About 1:04
Amanda DobbinsLoved it

Sex and relationship dialogue

Says the film's sexual candor still works well and has aged better than most comedies.

About 32 min
Bill SimmonsLoved it

Runtime and structure

Likes that the movie is compact and doesn't waste time, unlike modern rom-coms.

About 32 min
6 ThemesThe larger ideas in the discussion

Modern rom-com template

The film is treated as the start of the modern romantic comedy era, especially the 'two friends who fall in love' structure.

Opening minutes

Gender balance and emotional equality

The movie is admired for treating Harry and Sally as equally flawed and equally responsible for the relationship.

About 8 min

Female perspective in romantic comedy

Nora Ephron is credited with centering Sally and making the female perspective the template for later rom-coms.

About 16 min

Friend groups as real characters

The supporting friends are praised because the film gives them personality and chemistry instead of using them as generic sidekicks.

About 16 min

City as atmosphere

New York, especially fall/winter Manhattan, is discussed as a key part of the film’s identity and appeal.

About 32 min

Sex and relationship honesty

The film is admired for frank talk about sex, attraction, and the ways men and women misread one another.

About 32 min
23 Facts and referencesProduction notes and other movies mentioned

Production note

The movie made $92.8 million and was released against a crowded summer slate including Batman and Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.

About 16 min

Production note

Harry Connick Jr. won a Grammy tied to the soundtrack.

About 16 min

Production note

The final split-screen phone call reportedly took 61 takes.

About 32 min

Production note

Rob Reiner reportedly lived apart from the cast and crew in a separate hotel room to get into Harry's divorced mindset.

About 48 min · medium confidence

Production note

Ephron initially wanted to title the film 'How They Met.'

About 48 min

Production note

The ending was initially written without the couple getting together; the happy ending came later.

About 56 min

Production note

Gerald Ford's son Jack played Joe.

About 56 min

Production note

Bill says the film feels unusually un-dated except for phones and a few 1980s specifics.

About 32 min

Annie Hall

Compared to When Harry Met Sally by critics and by the hosts as a Woody Allen-like touchstone.

Opening minutes

Manhattan

Mentioned in the context of Woody Allen comparisons and New York as a setting.

Opening minutes

Casablanca

Referenced as an old movie the characters watch and as part of the film's movie-culture conversation.

About 40 min

It Happened One Night

Cited as an older romantic-comedy ancestor referenced in deleted or related material.

About 40 min

Pillow Talk

Named as another older rom-com reference in the film's lineage.

About 40 min · medium confidence

Sleepless in Seattle

Discussed as another Nora Ephron movie that extends her interest in relationships and female perspective.

About 8 min

You've Got Mail

Used as a later Ephron movie that Amanda feels she inherited as part of Ephron's world.

About 8 min

My Best Friend's Wedding

Mentioned as a later formative friend-to-love story for Amanda.

About 8 min

Secret Admirer

Cited as an earlier movie with a similar friend-to-romance premise.

About 8 min

City Slickers

Used as part of Billy Crystal's career discussion.

About 16 min

Running Scared

Mentioned as an underrated Billy Crystal buddy-cop movie.

About 16 min · medium confidence

The Godfather Part II

Referenced indirectly through Bruno Kirby's young-Clemenza role.

About 48 min · medium confidence

A Few Good Men

Used to illustrate Rob Reiner's later directorial run.

About 16 min

Misery

Another Rob Reiner hit cited in his directing streak.

About 16 min

The Seinfeld Chronicles

Discussed as a potential TV lineage connection to the film's New York conversational style.

About 56 min · medium confidence
11 Running jokes and short linesRecurring bits captured from the conversation

Airport pickup dread

The hosts joke about hating airport pickups and how taking someone to the airport signals relationship seriousness.

About 16 min

White man's overbite

The phrase becomes a running joke about wedding dancing and awkward social performance.

About 16 min

Baby fish mouth and other quote spam

The hosts continually toss out short phrases from the movie as if everyone knows them instantly.

About 40 min

Real estate / apartment fetish

Bill and the others repeatedly comment on the apartment layouts, windows, and restaurant spaces as if judging celebrity real estate.

About 24 min

Sharper Image nostalgia

They riff on old mall gadget stores and how the movie's consumer objects date the era.

About 48 min

Nora Ephron admiration loop

Amanda repeatedly returns to Ephron as an all-time favorite writer, prompting agreement and more praise.

About 8 min

Bill Simmons

“one of the most influential movies”
Opening minutes

Amanda Dobbins

“I've seen this movie at least 500 times”
Opening minutes

Bill Simmons

“I'll have what she's having”
About 40 min

Amanda Dobbins

“She does too”
About 32 min

Bill Simmons

“when you realize you want to spend”
About 1:04

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